Sunday, February 08, 2009

Men - they should all be shot to the moon for a leper colony....but that would be an insult to Lepers.

Everythig seemed to go fine after BF moved back in. We are no longer arguing and are making a real effort to get along. He is talking babies and getting married. The drinking is still a problem, but he keeps it to the evenings now and he has finally admitted he has a problem, which I guess is the first step. He rarely gets nasty now when he drinks, so I can cope, although it's annoying.

So what's the problem ? While we were apart he met another woman. Not really a big deal as such, we did split up after all. But she is still calling him and he is still calling her back. Last night she called while we were on the sofa. He said she just doesn't give up and answered the call. After a while he left the room and closed the door to talk to her. Thats when I became suspsicious. It seemed wrong. If he has got nothing to hide, why can't he talk to her in front of me ?

I asked him about her and he said he just met her in a pub and they got chatting and she has been calling him ever since. She is married and he doesn't want anything from her, just likes talking to her. He didn't come to bed last night and when I got up this morning, his phone was out on the charger. I couldn't help myself, I had to look. Checked his text messages and there is was, in black and white. He texted her that he fancies her rotten and that he needs to know that she feels the same.

I can't believe it. The lying b*****. Now I don't know what to do. I can't really admit that I have seen the text, but also I can't let this go. I know he was drunk at the time, but thats no excuse.
I am hurt....

If I were Boy
I think I could understand
how it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cuz I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cuz he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

Its a little too late for you to come back
its just a mistake to think I'd forgive you like that
if you thought I would wait for you
you thought wrong

Beyonce, Just a boy


SoapyChica said...

Words fail me-the bleeping git! I think its time for the big heave ho, and see if a decent fella comes along. Thats just unbelievable- talking to another woman and closing the door to talk-no WAY! No, enough is enough. I feel bad for you, thats crap

Hippy at Heart said...

Agree with Sue, words fail me. Please get rid of him. Some things never change and men are one of those things. I've been married 4 times, trust me I know.

madpiano said...

Thanks for the support. I just don't know how to play this as I can't admit that I know that he is lying and cheating (yes, I am of the strict kind, cheating by text is still cheating).

Funny enough my horrorscope has been spot on for today:

It's easy to set yourself up for failure and disappointment by wanting too much. Grandiose ideas will likely be pared back down to a manageable size by the hard cold facts of reality. It's better to constrain yourself voluntarily than waiting for an unpleasant circumstance to stop you in your tracks.

SoapyChica said...

Hey, no, have grandiose ideas! Heck - have grandiose reality! Why not? Other people do, you can too! Checking texts is not as morally bad as doing what he is doing you know and anyway who cares-put yourself ahead of that worm in your priorities and you'll start to see better things come your way ,you know!

SudsnJewels said...

Betrayal is betrayal. His 'ab'normal behavior has you acting ab'normally. Tell him you have a hunch that he would be better off without you. Stand up for you when he won't. Let her deal with his drinking. He is not treating you like all women deserve to be treated. Oh, I am sorry... I know what a broken heart is like but not like this because I do not put up with it. Its a show-stopper for me. If it was leaving his stuff laying around, being a little lazy sometimes...but NO. There is only room for one woman in my house. Thanks for signing up on my blog. I hope that you don't take my writing the wrong way but I came to discover who madpiano was and to say hi...only to discover that there was sadness. I am glad you put it out here. write anytime :)